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Monday, January 17, 2011

A time comes in your life when you finally get it.....

A time comes in your life when you finally get it…When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out – ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And , like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes because you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired.

This is your awakening. You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world there aren’t always fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you and in the process a sense of peace is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are…and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions. You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only one you can really count on is God . You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to truly trust God and surrender your life completely to Him and in the process a sense of safety and security is born.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness. You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the junk you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh, what you should wear, where you should shop and what you should drive, how and where you should live and what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry and what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children or what you owe your parents.

You learn that the abundant life only comes by modeling your life after the Holy Word of God, The Bible. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for. You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard things you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into your life to begin with and in the process you learn to partner with God and listen for that small still voice.
You learn that it’s not your job to save the world, Jesus already died once and for all and salvation is available to every person but you learn that it is your job to partner with God to live a life modeled after Christ so that you can be used as an instrument to help draw people to Christ.

You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no. You learn that the only cross to bear is your own.

Then you learn about love, unconditional love. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship because unconditional love always considers the other person first. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change so it is with love…and you learn that you don’t have the right to demand love on your terms…just to make you happy. And you learn that alone does not mean lonely…and you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside and learn how to communicate them effectively without offense. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn’t punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It’s just life happening.

And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state – the ego and pride! You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and removed from your life completely or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the all that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to building bridges instead of walls.

Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, completely (thoughts, actions, feelings etc). You make yourself a promise to never betray yourself or anyone else and to never ever settle for less than your heart’s desire because now it is not an entitlement, you are ready and willing to do the work necessary to expect God’s best for your life.

Finally, with courage in your heart and with God on your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and begin to design and live the life you want to live as best you can, but now this is a life that you know will glorify God hence bring the full umbrella of God’s blessings, protection, and presence.

Author Unknown/(Edited by Abena)

I didn't write all of it but I could have Because I finally get it...Abena